The Michael Masterson Journal

Issue No. 70 - $1.91	Saturday, November 27, 2010
"Belief in our mortality, the sense that we are eventually going to crack up and be extinguished like the flame of a candle, I say, is a gloriously fine thing. It makes us sober; it makes us a little sad; and many of us it makes poetic. But above all, it makes it possible for us to make up our mind and arrange to live sensibly, truthfully, and always with a sense of our own limitations." Lin Yutang Giving Thanks By Michael Masterson I woke up this morning in pain again. I injured my shoulder wrestling a few weeks ago, and it doesn't seem to be healing. Certainly not as fast as it would have healed when I was in my 30s. This is one of the many execrable things that happen to you when you reach 60. But it's hardly the worst. The worst is that you can't avoid thinking about death. People you know -- colleagues, friends, and family members -- are seriously sick or dying. Right now, I see death as a hateful thief -- ready to rob me of the time I need to accomplish the goals I have yet to accomplish. There is so much still to do: books to write, movies to make, business to conduct, and places to see. But most of all there are relationships I owe time to. A reader recently wrote asking me why, when discussing how I spend my day, I don't talk about the time I spend with my family and friends. The main reason is that I don't feel I should be dragging them into public view without their permission. But another reason is that I write mostly about what I've learned... and I haven't learned how to do a very good job of that. When I think about making good use of the time I have left, it's clear to me that working on my personal relationships should be my top priority. So why don't I do that now? I once read a book called The Denial of Death. I don't remember much about it, but I do remember what I took away from it: It is frightening to consciously recognize our mortality -- to be fully aware that one day we will cease to exist. The fear of death is so great, in fact, that the reality of death must be suppressed from our consciousness so we can go forward with our lives. In other words, we deny death in order to live fully. I think this is true. Especially for the young. But as we age, it becomes more difficult to keep death away from our thinking. And eventually, we come to a crossroad where we must decide: Should I continue to deny death, to "rage against the dying of the light"? Or should I learn to accept the fact that we are all dead men on leave and learn to live, as Thomas Ken said, "that I may dread the grave as little as my bed"? I think we can do both. We can continue to live our lives fully and purposefully -- even embracing long-term goals -- while gradually allowing the reality of death to sit comfortably in our psyches. Here are four steps you can take today to get yourself on that track: 1. Spend 15 minutes by yourself thinking about mortality. Take a walk. Find a peaceful place. Breathe slowly. Look around. Recognize that one day -- sooner than you can believe -- you will not exist anymore. You will not be around to breathe the clean air, feel the sun on your skin, and see the things you find beautiful. You will not be around to hear the sound of your lover's sigh, your children's voices, and your best friend's laughter. Try to get, as clearly as you can, a sense of your own mortality. Try to stop, if only for a few moments, a fundamental aspect of consciousness -- the denial of death. Use that recognition to get to the next step. 2. Imagine your own funeral. Visualize four people who are speaking about you. One is your spouse or significant other. The other is a child or parent. The next is a friend. And the fourth is someone involved in your career. Imagine what they would say about you if you died tomorrow. Be honest. 3. If there is a difference between what you think those four people would say about you and what you'd like them to say, you've got some work to do. Turn what you'd like them to say about you into your primary goals, and write them down. (Ideally, your primary goals should cover all four of the major areas of your life, and include health goals, wealth goals, personal goals, and social goals.) Then break down those core goals into seven-year and one-year objectives. If you don't understand exactly what I'm talking about, either read my new book, The Pledge, or enroll in ETR's Total Success Achievement-Epiphany Alliance Program. 4. Make a commitment to respect the time you have. That means living in such a way that you honor your core life goals as well as other important but non-essential life goals. The best way to do it is to make your core life goals a priority. And that means attending to them during that first precious hour of your working day, before you get to all your other daily obligations. Don't think you can put off working on your core goals until some time in the future. Use your newly acquired ability to face your mortality to motivate you. Get the most important things done first. I'm saying "you" here but I'm thinking "I." I've got to do this and I'm going to start doing it right now. Keep Pushing Just keep pushing. That's what I tell people who have talent and dreams but haven't yet made it. Take a look at this commercial for Vodaphone. The man is Franceso Totti, Italy's most celebrated soccer player. His teacher is my sister, who has been working in Italy as a director and actor for many years. She's done lots of great work but never made any serious money or great fame. Then she did this little commercial with Francesco and people are stopping her on the streets. Soon the royalty checks will be coming in. The commercial is a big hit, and they've already made a sequel. [Ed. Note: Michael Masterson welcomes your questions and comments. Send him a message at AskMichael@ETRFeedback.com.]
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